The other day I attempted to get to my destination by looking in the rear view mirror! Gotcha! This is just a simple illustration of how we live our lives.
Yesterday, last week, last year and the years before that are gone forever. We can never re-live those moments. Although we can become stuck in the emotions of things that have passed and allow them to dictate how we move about in the present.
Accept the past is over and move forward. This does not imply that happy memories should be abandoned. They are to be welcomed and held tenderly in your heart and soul. What we are speaking of here is situations that keep you stuck. Like relationships that you have labeled as being bad and caused you pain and suffering. These occurred and are now over, when you say they are over. Understand the situation from a different perspective, think of everything that was involved and acknowledge that it happened the way it did because of your consciousness. When we know better we do better and so do others. Let them go now and freed forever from that place of victim-hood.
I am moving forward fully equipped with the many lessons of yesterday. I forgive myself and any others for anything I have labeled as bad or unjust. Justice comes to me when I release the situation and the outcome. Justice comes to me as I forgive completely. Justice is mine for the taking, the taking on of a new attitude and disposition.
I am moving forward with my life, void of any unpleasant memories. I am moving forward with my life with great expectations and lots of love and forgiveness. Forgiving myself first for ever thinking I needed to hold on to something that was so painful to remember. I am now freed from the past and move joyously forward with ease and confidence of a brighter today and tomorrow!
What direction are you going?
In the presence of others, do you take the high road of authenticity or gauge how you show up dependent upon on how the others appear? This is sometimes referred to as peer pressure. And you thought that only applied to children, especially teenagers. Well it does not and guess what, the same small children you are saying this to be watching you and how you show up in the company of others.
Do not compromise your values for the sake of belonging. Isn’t that what we tell our children? Be a leader not a follower, and there we go following the gang because everyone is doing it. As we get older our gang is broader and is often influenced by what we see on television and what we hear in the music. The community at large becomes our gang, the people we hang out with. In this process do you still honor your truth? Or are you following the crowds, the same crowd we warn our children about?
Actions are always much louder than our words. Our children are watching. How we show up! Are your actions consistent with your values? How do you show up? Is the environment the one who sets the tone of what is fashionable and the latest trend? Are your actions consistent with your words?
Is honesty an admirable value? Yet you lie to others often, in the company of your children? What do you think they are learning, that it is okay to lie some of the time, because they hear you doing it? Well if this is how you show up, please do not chastise the children for repeating what you are teaching. Do you holler, scream and curse others when you are upset? But insist upon spanking the child that does the same as you?
How do you show up for yourself? Do you compromise because you feel intimidated by titles or status? Regardless of the position in life we are each the same, a child of God.
Respect yourself and show up as the real you all the time!
We all appreciate that businesses require a Business Plan and a Marketing Plan to be successful and to track their achievements. My nephew, Anthony A.K. King and I were having a discussion and as we talked he shared his passion of working with males in helping them to be successful in life. He had recently met with some young men who were seniors in high school and he asked them about their personal business plans for their life. The young men were caught off guard because even though they were high school seniors no one had ever talked to them about their personal life goals, their business plan.
So I pose the same question to you, what is your plan? Do you have a business plan that will guide you in getting to where it is you say you want to go or to the place you say you want to be? Do you fully embrace your plan? Can you easily recite it to anyone who asks you the infamous question, ‘What are you doing these days?’
What is your vision for your life? How will you get there?
Like the old saying goes; How do you eat an elephant? The answer is: One bite at a time. Do you know what your elephant is? Make the plans to proceed one bite at a time, set incremental steps to reaching your goals. Design your plan in truth and honesty. Please do not get caught up in someone else’s vision for your life. What do you truly desire in this life time? What will you truly do to accomplish what you say is important to you? How long do you want to take to get there? Understand that you are the master of this course. You obtain your doctorate degree at completion.
Is this the first time someone has even asked you this question? Then good, I am glad I am asking it! I applaud you at the finish line. I will be there at the graduation ceremony.
My favorite theme song is from the TV sitcom, Reba. Reba McEntire sings the words, ‘Who I am is who I want to be. I am a survivor!’ Those are some prolific words. This song describes where I currently reside in life, Who I Am is who I want to be!
This attitude has taken time to develop by really being with myself, listening to what I thought and had to say to myself; to honor the presence of The Source that lives inside of me; to fully appreciate my goodness and to know it is mine when I say it is mine! Therefore I can honestly boast that, Who I am is who I want to be!!!
Has it always looked this way for me? Absolutely not. Yet I always knew somewhere deep within my Spirit that there had to be something more to this thing called life. So I began my journey into the meanings of life. I have enjoyed some wonderfully varied perspectives on life, religions and other philosophies. I have enjoyed the awesome friendships of people who did not look like me, some not even close! But I knew we are each here on this planet earth to live out our individual purposes. I just knew the world did not revolve solely around me. Therefore I included others, actually I welcomed others into my life to experience their presence (presents). I have been so tremendously gifted in ways I will treasure in this life and the next ones by the blessings of others who have shared so freely with me. My heart is jumping with joy as I remember all the souls that became a part of me. People who just showed up and appreciated being their authentic self, to demonstrate to me their way of life and living, and loved me enough to share who they were. I have enjoyed the experiences of many different cultures and have become a fuller person because of the many friendships.
Do you have a favorite theme song? Choose one that you can hum as you go about your day. It can and will remind you of what is important to you alone.
As for me…WHO I AM IS WHO I WANT TO BE!
An onion has layers on it that must be peeled away before you can use it. We sometimes are like onions, we need to peel off layers before we get to the authentic person. We have Layers of disappointments, hurts, pains and unmet expectations; Layers of feeling unloved and unlovable; Layers of false feelings of unworthiness; Layers of sadness and confusion; and just lots of layers and layers of junk and stuff.
Today I begin peeling off and throwing away the layers I have allowed to build around me and cover the authentic me. The authentic me is Whole, Complete, Love, Capable, Worthy, Joyous, Wonderful! The authentic me seeks full expression as a Child of the Most High Energy, choosing to vibrate at an awesome level of Consciousness. I celebrate my life in totality!
The onion can cause tears to form in your eyes as you peel away the layers. These tears can be those of sorrow or joy. I choose to let them be ones of joy. Sorrow is no longer a part of my consciousness. Today I accept the many things that have come to teach me has indeed benefited me in a very powerful way. The situations have appeared to make me the person I am this day, a person fully capable of expressing the best me. I have learned through all the experiences. I give Thanks for their appearance in my life. During the experience I may have been too consumed with the process to completely understand the lesson. Yet today I look back with joy and wisdom, fully understanding their purpose for showing up, just for me to learn a lesson!
As I get to the nectar of the awesome flavor of the onion it adds fullness to my life. It adds a special blend to the recipe of my life. I am thankful for the savoring process, of allowing it to fully integrate into the completeness of the magnificent person this recipe has produced….ME!
I value the lesson of peeling an onion! I apply it to my life and weep tears of joy and gratitude. I gladly peel away and discord for good, the layers of stuff that has prevented me from being my authentic self.
What if you had 24/7/365 access to God? What would you do with this communication? What if each word you spoke was communication with The Source of all life? What if you truly can talk with Infinite Intelligence every second of every minute of every hour of every day? What if….?
I choose to believe I have the power to communicate with The Most High at any given time. It is my right to have this access. I am never separated from this Presence, it lives in me at all times. Therefore I call upon Wisdom whenever I need it. I call upon Strength when I feel myself falling. I seek Faith by calling it into my existence when I have relied upon the physical as evidence of possibilities. I summon the gift of Understanding when situations are unclear and appear confusing. I call upon JOY to lift me up higher and higher! I trust in the miraculous workings of the Holy Spirit!
I choose to accept my inheritance from the abundance supply of the Universe! I actively call upon the power of The Awesome Spirit to activate Itself with me. It is alive as I am alive. I welcome this Spirit of Life as my guide and wayshower on this journey.
I no longer ask the question, what if, for I know the answer. The answer is, Yes I can and do have access to The Creator at all times. I use this Power wisely. I choose my words carefully for I recognize they will not return to me void. I use words of love and forgiveness. I use words that uplift and encourage. I use words to demonstrate Peace and Harmony. I use the gift of the spoken word wisely!
I allow my Light to shine before all the world to see and benefit from my gifts. I realize I have gifts to share and do so willingly. My gift of laughter lifts another out of doom and gloom. My gift of a smile lets another know I care about them. My gift of listening comforts a person who just needs to release through talking over a major issue in their life.
No more what ifs for me. Now I know with clarity that I posses the key to open communication with my Creator and I use it 24/7/365! Thanks God.
I use the term, ‘Learn to Love Yourself’ because many of us often leave that to someone else to do for us. Despite what you have thought in the past, you must LOVE yourself before anyone else can truly love you.
To love yourself is to be completely honest with your thoughts and actions towards you. And you do not have to share your inner most thoughts with anyone unless you choose to do so. So what are you really thinking these days? Do you believe you are worthy of the goals and dreams you have for yourself? Are you beautiful by your own standards? Do you experience JOY on a deep soul satisfying level?
You can learn to be ‘in love’ with you, at all times and through all circumstances. You learn this by simply doing it, without excuse or resistance. Just Love who you have become, all the wonderful lessons you have learned and all the growth you have experienced. Isn’t it grand to count it all a blessing? It is your life, your physical existence. It is your heart and your soul that we are celebrating with absolute Joy! Love that person at the deepest levels and watch how much better your life becomes. You are doing it for yourself AND that is reason enough.
Practice giving the best to you this day. They say practice makes perfect. So continue to practice loving your self until you become a master at it. Truly love without any conditions. To love yourself is the greatest gift you can give to you today.
I Love Me today! I truly Love Me today! I Am worthy of LOVE! And I accept Love into my life, beginning with self love. I give myself permission to Love freely, without restraints or limitations. I simply choose to LOVE!
I Am my best friend. I tell myself the truth at all times. I am patient and kind with me. I choose words of support and encouragement with myself. I know I can and I will; it is my choice.
This very day, I WILL LOVE MYSELF FULLY AND COMPLETELY!