Blending is a gradual process of mixing several ingredients together to become a new mixture. Sometimes it involves liquefying, sometimes chopping and grinding. Regardless of the action required, the result is always the same, several ingredients thoroughly combined together to become a unique new creation of oneness.
As I witnessed the marriage of one of my nephews this thought became crystal clear as it pertains to families or any other ‘mixture’ of people. The different individuals, personalities are all combined to create something new and different.
I watched the youth blending together to create what appeared as one massive unit. They became a blur of unity. All you could see were smiles. All you could feel was harmony. They simply knew how to include each other and blend into having a great time. Teaching and learning from each other the various dance steps. They allowed each other space and time to showcase their individual talents.
As the young adults and elders joined in, it grew and became a larger blur of unity. No one paid attention to age, race, height or weight. No concern was given to a person being on the dance floor without a partner because everyone was their partner.
The finished concoction was a perfect blending of not only two families but of multiple families. Each had come prepared to add their spice to this celebration of two wonderful souls who had vowed to blend into one unit; A Beautifully Blended Body of Oneness!
The creation of anything requires time, skill and expertise. True relationships do not happen by chance, they take time to build.
Building relationships is a wonderful opportunity to discover who you really are. Most relationships that we entertain are a reflection of those qualities we either have in our self or aspire to develop in ourselves.
Always began the building with truth and honesty. Allow the other person to see and share with the real you. I have been told by the participants of Common Ground that they do not allow people to see them in their fullness at first. They wait, wear masks to cover the real person, until that person has proved they are worthy to really know them. The masks serve as a protection and a hiding place. My question to them is what does that say about you? Are you afraid or ashamed of whom you are? Why not allow the person to see the real you? What if you are missing out on a great friendship? What if that person transitioned before you have the opportunity to show them who you really are?
When we have nothing to hide and no longer are ruled by fear of people getting too close or not liking the real you, then we can proudly show up in our authentic self at all times. Regardless to the situation we are pleased of who we are and have become and fully desire for others to ‘see’ us in full expression.
Do you always show up in true identity? Do you wear masks depending on the circumstances? Do you first appear one way, then as the relationship builds and you feel more comfortable you become another person? Become the person who desire to be so that you can always demonstrate the authentic you! Be proud of who you are at all times. Express yourself fully.
Build the relationship with you first. Know you are a child of God; worthy, deserving, complete, healthy, and whole. Honor yourself at all times. Be kind to you, be loving to you and be forgiving of yourself. Love you and allow others to love you in return.
© Sandy Rodgers Ministries
Can a tree grow without having healthy roots? Do vegetables and fruits survive if the roots are damaged? Of course the answer to both of these questions is no.
What about the human roots; the roots of your immediate family or that of a generation of people? Can the effects of a damage that occurred generations ago still have an effect on you even though you are not aware of the damage? Can you restore the damage to ensure a different outcome for the remaining branches and leaves on the family tree? The future generations that are yet not born are from this same tree.
Until the damage can be detected and treated, a possibility exists for more ruin or less production of good crop. Perhaps the fruit will only be half lived, with unmet dreams unable to be realized. Perhaps more serious destruction will take place if the damage is ignored, it could mean the complete end to the tree.
We can choose to be the perfect healthy specimen to diagnose and treat the root rot. Our choice calls for great wisdom, exceptional love and a loyalty to our family that will allow for full disclosure of the history. Once the truth is shared, the teller of the story can be healed. They have kept this family secret for many years. Unable to verbalize it for fear that others would think less of the family or of them. Once they have had the opportunity to fully express the facts, they sense a relief and release. They have probably experienced some forms of disease in their body from holding onto these secrets. Help them to release and live.
To be the helper you must be strong; Strong in Faith, Truth, and Courage. Some of the truths that are revealed may be shocking. Once this is done, begin to change the situation by applying Unconditional Love to the story. Surround all involved with sincere Love and Appreciation for what they had to endure to survive. Tell them how much you honor their decisions and actions. This must be the truth for you! This must be done in absolute Love. You can hold the vision for the entire family, yours and others.
When each tree is fortified with Healthy Roots, we begin to flourish in our families. We can truly live a life full of Love and Acceptance. We can honor the diversity in others by knowing our own story.
Be a helper in treating all damaged roots. Be a part of the family that ensures a positive life by the nature of its healthy, sturdy branches.